Thus far, dozens of people have read the previous two posts, but very few people have liked them. I get it. We don’t like to think that God would send us back to someone who hurt us or might hurt us. But as Joyce Meyer said during a program that aired July 4, 2019, the Bible’s full of such stories. For example, Moses ran from Pharaoh, but God sent him back to Egypt. When Hagar ran from Sarai, God didn’t just tell her to go back, he told her to go back and obey her. Elijah fled, and God told him, “Go back the way you came.”
You’ll notice, she said, they all wound up in the wilderness when they ran.
So, Why Would God Send Us Someplace Scary?
“[T]he Bible teaches us that God wants us to live courageously, that he wants us to be bold and strong in him and to not really cower from anything but to know that he is always with us and, because God is with us, we can face and deal with anything that we need to face and deal with in our lives,” Meyer said.
Furthermore, God intends to get glory out of our lives.
Where Did God Send Joyce Meyer?
Knowing it’s one thing to preach about something and another to go through it, Meyer talked about God sending her back to the father who’d sexually abused her for years.
“So, I was praying one day, and I felt like God just put it on my heart [that] the time is not yet, but the time is gonna come when you’re gonna have to go and face your father and confront him about what he did to you,” she said.
“[A] couple years [later], I was spending some time with the lord again one night, and I mean just in the middle of prayer, I heard the holy spirit say, ‘The time is now.’ Oh, my gosh. Well, I was shaking so hard and [I was] so scared, but [my husband] Dave went with me, and I sat down in front of my dad, and of course my mother was in the house, so I was very concerned about what was gonna happen to her because she’d already had a nervous breakdown from not dealing with her issues and the things going on in our home, and so it was quite a frightful scene,” she said.
“But I remember confronting him and telling him, ‘We need to talk about what you did to me,’ and, boy, he got mad and started firing all kinds of things back at me [like], well, you know, ‘You wanted to do it,’ and this and that. I said, ‘That is ridiculous. You controlled me with fear, and I hated you, and I hated every single thing that you did to me.’ And so, anyway, I just told him, ‘What you did has really hurt me and really caused a lot of problems in my life, and it was wrong, and I just needed to tell you how I feel about it,'” she said.
“But I [also] told him that because of my love for God, I was willing to forgive him, but I wanted him to deal with it so he could get well and not just run from it and hide from it.”
Why Did God Send Her There?
Toward the end of her father’s life, God prompted her to buy her parents a house and take care of them. About three years later, her father broke down crying, apologized to her, and got baptized. But that isn’t the only reason God sent her there.
“[W]hen I left home, I just thought, well, that was over,” she said. “But I realized later that I took it with me, and it was in my soul, but I didn’t want to deal with it. It was painful; I didn’t want to deal with it. So, effectively, I was running from it because I just didn’t want to face it. I didn’t want to talk about it, I didn’t want to pray about it. I just wanted to pretend like it didn’t exist. … Well, let me tell you something: sweeping things under the rug, so to speak, is actually a very dangerous thing. Just because you choose not to look at it, that doesn’t mean that it’s not there. And God has anointed us to deal with stuff and not run.”
What If God Sends You Someplace Scary?
“I’m not suggesting that anybody do what God had me do,” she said. “I am suggesting, however, that you do whatever God does lead you to do. … And he does lead us in different ways. … [M]aybe God’s just wanting you to get ready — at least mentally — to be willing to deal with things that you may need to deal with in order to get well.
“You see, the thing is, you can’t run from things and hide from things and ever really get well,” she said. “You know, whether it’s a sin in your life that you need to deal openly with with God, whether you need to go back and make some restitution with somebody that you really hurt and wounded, maybe somebody in your life has really mistreated you and they’re living in this fantasy land that it didn’t bother them, and maybe, for their sake, you need to go back in a loving way, sit down, and confront them and tell them what they did to you, and how they made you feel. Sometimes you can’t get well without that.
“And I know that not all of you were hurt in the way that I was hurt,” she said. “[B]ut let me tell you, I believe that what I’m [sharing] applies to every single one of us in some way, shape, or form — even people who let other people manipulate them and control them because they’re afraid to make them mad,” she said. “Don’t let somebody else steal your life because you’re afraid to confront them and say, ‘You really have no right to control me and manipulate me, and I’m not gonna let you continue to do it.'”
To help you, watch “Nothing as Powerful as a Changed Mind,” beginning at 49:43.